1. Believe you are good enough
Sounds simple doesn’t it? Remember it doesn’t matter if what you do isn’t good enough for other people. The only person you have to be good enough for is you. Remind yourself of this every day. Say it again and again, shout it to the gorram heavens if it helps.
I ONLY NEED TO BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME!!!!!!.
2. Know that today is just a bad head day it won’t last forever
I know it’s difficult when you’re in this kind of mood but remind yourself that it’s okay to have a bad day. Tomorrow is another day after all.
3. Do something that makes you happy
Watch your favourite film, play some videogames, read a book, bake a cake. It doesn’t matter what it is, just that it makes you happy. Whatever it is might just help give your overthinking brain a little rest.
4. Avoid social media
Don’t compare your life to someone else’s highlight reel. Just because it looks like everyone has it all together on social media doesn’t actually mean that they have.
5. Have meaningful conversations about your feelings with someone you trust.
Us blokes are taught not to share our feelings, that it somehow makes us appear weak. It’s complete bollocks but it’s also not an easy thing to overcome. If the thought of opening yourself up makes you cringe, try writing your thoughts down on paper. Just getting the thoughts out of your head can help.
6. Its ok to cry
Big boys don’t cry. Probably one of the most toxic phrases going and one that I am very wary of using around my son. Crying doesn’t make you any less of a man, and keeping it all inside just causes more problems down the line.
7. Remember how far you have come
Whether it be career, relationships or personal life take the time once in a while to look back to see how much you have achieved. After all, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards.” (-Steve Jobs)
8. Be kind to yourself for a change
I’m usually first in line to put myself down. It’s a lot harder for other people to knock you down if you’ve gotten there first. You should always try to find one thing about yourself that you like – whether it’s how your hair looks or good your sir guitar game is – don’t forget about the positives in yourself.
9. Stay busy with work/fitness/hobbies
The art of distraction is a very powerful one. There’s little room for negativity if you focus on something you love. So find the thing that you’re passionate about and pour all your energy into pursuing it!
10. Don’t Shut down!!!!!
Easier done than said right? The thing is closing yourself off as a “self-preservation exercise” doesn’t work. Going round and round in your head just pushes you further down that negative slope.
Be open, be honest with yourself and be true to how you feel.
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This post owes a huge debt of gratitude to the Ginger Womble. Whilst I have tried to use my own words I wouldn’t have been able to do so without the foundation that was laid down by The Womble. I encourage you to go check out the original post here!